Life's tough...
It is indeed tough for us to go through life, especially when we seem to facing problem which looks like never ending. Normally, those kind of problem revolves around family, rather than outside problems. Whether we like or dislike someone in our family because of their behaviour, actions, words, etc. That eventually will become our problem somehow in our later year.
Whether we realize it or not, the family which at first supporting us when we're in the earlier year of our life, will slowly start to nag us. And I just realize this during writing. That even when we're still a kid, our family even nag us by saying we HAVE TO learn not to pee ourselves, not do this and that. Well, it is for our good, but it still nagging, isn't it?
And then when we're at school, our family, our parents in specific, will push us to WORK HARDer for us to be able to achieve some rank in almost everything we do. But in reality, it's kinda hard to do because of all the competition, right? Then moving up to another phase in our life, whether we like it or not, they will start to ask about our aim in life, whether we want to work here and there, or do something useful rather than being a potato bag. Also in our relationship matter too. A lil bit this and that from them will always accompany us everywhere.
But then, we always think that: it's a restrain! It is my own life and I just want to do it like I want to! I'm tired of being asked this and that! and so on and so on... And for some people, their family is no better than that. Some families are just sort of thinking when you're finished your study, graduates etc and working, then it means it is your time to pay back... And I know some people who encounter such situation.
But thinking those thing will make the person fed up, stressed out and even frustrated when they can't do anything about their situation that will becoming more miserable than it supposed to be. Because they have to think about this and that, that they are not supposed to think of before the time. Some will accept it as it is, while some will have a wistful thinking. Which one are you?
Life is fast, but is you don't stop once a while and look around, then you'll definitely miss it, the meaning of life it is. It looks life it is tough. But once we looked around, we will see each every detail of our life. That we were able to overcome our problem, no matter how big or small it is. That we've been battered in our life, but we end up as we are, getting tougher each and every time we fell down. That we, without realizing it, facing the same problem over and over again with the stronger intensity which makes us think that we're not finish with one, yet while in fact we're through the old one and start with a new one.
Fear not! You're not the only one who are facing problem in this world. Everyone has it and anyone that you meet, perhaps, have the same problem as you do. So you're not alone. Stop pitying yourself. Dust yourself up each time you fell, and face your problem head on. No matter what, or who it is. You are your own master, with the exception of God of course, so nothing can bring you down except yourself.
So.. my dear best friend, stop thinking too much and start to take a deep breath once a while, while enjoying the scene in your life roll itself in front of you. Don' t and never think that your problem is bigger than who you are. Life's tough alright... but it is NEVER tougher than you are, if you don't allow it to be...
Hope this will soothe you a lil bit since I'm not able to soothe you myself. Cheer up, lift up your glass and say, "to everything that happened and all that will come"
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Be "Enough"
The secret of happiness is not doing the things that you like but liking the things that you do.
One of my friend in FB said this in her status, "may i have a life that filled with things that make me happy?..i mean,every little things & every step that i take,at least.." It is truly a wish that everyone asking in their life. To be happy in life. Isn't it?
But most of the time, we don't get what we want in our life. Reality often clashes with our dreams and shattered it that we can't even find one shard of what was our dream. But really, sometimes we wondered how can people be looking extremely happy, or how someone can seem so miserable? How can someone unfortunate in their own way can look so serene in their life, while most of us who are blessed feels... restless?
I found one answer to that during the time when I tried to clear my mind and coming to peace to my circumstances. It is trus that my circumstances are rather... unique, not like most people. My family are.. not like what they are seemed and that at one part of my life I despise them for... my being. The peace that I have after all this time makes me realize something.
I've learned many things in my short life till now, and that I become more mature than those who are in my age, regardless the circumstances. That I become who I am right now, molding by everything that's happened in my life. The rejection, the heartache, the feeling of being unwanted, the hurt, the pain, disappointment, and every negative feeling you can think and feel of in your whole life.
But also, I know all of those things makes me for who I am right now. That I can really FEEL the heart of those who are in dire need. And that I might be someone that can answer to their problem in my own unique way. Like the saying: "God will never give you anything that you can't handle, so don't stress" (hehehe.. I took this from one of my friend's YM picture :p) We shouldn't have stressed ourselves with our problem. Because our problem is never greater than Him.
And to be exact, the secret to your happiness is not doing the things that you like but liking the things that you do. That your life is simply a choice of a negative and positive thinking. Whether you can feel enough with what you have and be grateful for it, or you crave for more in the chance of you get anxious each day when you don't get what you wanted for so long. Whether you will feel jealous for someone who can be happy in their life, or you would feel happy for them and waiting for the right time for yourself. And there are many things in our life that can be an example of what's more to choose in the coming event.
And coming to truth, ever since I think positively in everything I faced, things gets better and better. And I can even smile during the hardest time and also bring happiness to others that's beside me. Their smile encourages me to do better each day to bring happiness to people. That unselfishness leads to better things in life and unexpected of people.
Sad as you be, but don't succumb to it. Get up, face the world and think that you're not the only person that ever feels like that. Or think that you can compare your problem with others and think that: "God! I'm lucky that I'm having this problem rather than that!". Stand up, dust yourself up, brace yourself, and smile! You're not totally alone!
Hope this insight of mine can brighten up your day and God Bless You!
One of my friend in FB said this in her status, "may i have a life that filled with things that make me happy?..i mean,every little things & every step that i take,at least.." It is truly a wish that everyone asking in their life. To be happy in life. Isn't it?
But most of the time, we don't get what we want in our life. Reality often clashes with our dreams and shattered it that we can't even find one shard of what was our dream. But really, sometimes we wondered how can people be looking extremely happy, or how someone can seem so miserable? How can someone unfortunate in their own way can look so serene in their life, while most of us who are blessed feels... restless?
I found one answer to that during the time when I tried to clear my mind and coming to peace to my circumstances. It is trus that my circumstances are rather... unique, not like most people. My family are.. not like what they are seemed and that at one part of my life I despise them for... my being. The peace that I have after all this time makes me realize something.
I've learned many things in my short life till now, and that I become more mature than those who are in my age, regardless the circumstances. That I become who I am right now, molding by everything that's happened in my life. The rejection, the heartache, the feeling of being unwanted, the hurt, the pain, disappointment, and every negative feeling you can think and feel of in your whole life.
But also, I know all of those things makes me for who I am right now. That I can really FEEL the heart of those who are in dire need. And that I might be someone that can answer to their problem in my own unique way. Like the saying: "God will never give you anything that you can't handle, so don't stress" (hehehe.. I took this from one of my friend's YM picture :p) We shouldn't have stressed ourselves with our problem. Because our problem is never greater than Him.
And to be exact, the secret to your happiness is not doing the things that you like but liking the things that you do. That your life is simply a choice of a negative and positive thinking. Whether you can feel enough with what you have and be grateful for it, or you crave for more in the chance of you get anxious each day when you don't get what you wanted for so long. Whether you will feel jealous for someone who can be happy in their life, or you would feel happy for them and waiting for the right time for yourself. And there are many things in our life that can be an example of what's more to choose in the coming event.
And coming to truth, ever since I think positively in everything I faced, things gets better and better. And I can even smile during the hardest time and also bring happiness to others that's beside me. Their smile encourages me to do better each day to bring happiness to people. That unselfishness leads to better things in life and unexpected of people.
Sad as you be, but don't succumb to it. Get up, face the world and think that you're not the only person that ever feels like that. Or think that you can compare your problem with others and think that: "God! I'm lucky that I'm having this problem rather than that!". Stand up, dust yourself up, brace yourself, and smile! You're not totally alone!
Hope this insight of mine can brighten up your day and God Bless You!
Saturday, November 13, 2010
I've Learned...
I've learned-
That you cannot make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned-
That it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. That it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned -
That you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you better know something. That you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do. That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learned-
That it's taking me a long time to become the person that I want to be. That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned-
That you can keep going long after you can't. That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you. That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is a first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned-
That sometimes when I get angry I have the right to be angry, but it doesn't give me the right to be cruel. That true friendship continues to grow over the longest distance, and the same goes for true love.
I've learned-
That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned-
That you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what tragedy it would be if they believed it. That no matter how good your friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while, and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned-
That it isn't always good enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you must learn to forgive yourself. That no matter how bad a heart is broken; the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for whom we become. That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean that they don't love each other, and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned-
That we don't have to change friends, if we understand that friends change. That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you. That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. That the people you care about the most in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned-
That it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting someone's feelings or standing up for what you believe. That no matter what happens to me on earth or how much my faith falters, God's faith in me never dwindles or fails.
I've learned-
That life's lessons never end and wisdom can always be passed on.
That you cannot make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned-
That it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. That it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned -
That you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you better know something. That you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do. That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learned-
That it's taking me a long time to become the person that I want to be. That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned-
That you can keep going long after you can't. That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you. That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is a first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned-
That sometimes when I get angry I have the right to be angry, but it doesn't give me the right to be cruel. That true friendship continues to grow over the longest distance, and the same goes for true love.
I've learned-
That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned-
That you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what tragedy it would be if they believed it. That no matter how good your friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while, and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned-
That it isn't always good enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you must learn to forgive yourself. That no matter how bad a heart is broken; the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for whom we become. That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean that they don't love each other, and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned-
That we don't have to change friends, if we understand that friends change. That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you. That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. That the people you care about the most in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned-
That it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting someone's feelings or standing up for what you believe. That no matter what happens to me on earth or how much my faith falters, God's faith in me never dwindles or fails.
I've learned-
That life's lessons never end and wisdom can always be passed on.
Saturday, November 6, 2010
An After Thought (after soooo looong...) and finally: A Peace of Mind
Let's say I meet someone that I fancy for now. And I'd say I quite like him for now. Would I dare to say "I love him" in the end? What love is actually?
And I question myself back now. Have I even been in REAL love? Or is the heartache I feel is just a figment of my imagination?
No! For so long I've denied the fact. That I'm just... I'm just fall in love with the idea of being in love with someone. And when I said it out loud last night, the feeling of being a broken hearted person for so long is GONE!!! It is just that simple! I'm breaking free from the pain, the heartache, the trouble, and all. And I really do hope it will be lasting.
For now, I'll just really laying back, looking around at the world that revolves underneath my feet and the people that touch my life and thinking: 'this is me now.. what about tomorrow? Will I have someone by my side to look at the life like now?' But I really don't have any worries about it. I don't really want to think about it.
Now all I want to do is to learn to feel. Feel as in feeling the air breeze upon my skin, the rain drop upon my skin, the heat from the sun (though I hate it so much if it's too hot), the smooth skin of baby holding on your hands with its own power (which I adore so much from them), the thumping on my heart each day that I can feel everytime I wake up in the morning or napping to know that I'm still alive.
And funnily, I feel it thumping even harder when I see him online, and my heart goes kaboom when there's a chat window says "hallo" to me every morning. And since I feel that way, I want to know him more... but keep a distance myself to let myself know whether this is real or just another imagination of mine.
A fatamorgana is even feel beautiful when you're totally expecting it. And I fell too deep before, that it really took me time to find myself a way out. So before I fell again to another dimension, I'd better stand back and see it clearly before stepping into it. And if I'm about to get lost, I'll get lost in the paradise and not another fatamorgana.
Reaching a peace on my own mind makes me realize another thing about being in love with another person. It doesn't require you to change nor change the person you love to be like what you wanted. Instead they will compromised each other and find their own pace in their lifetime. And perhaps each other will change for their own good. But in the whole picture, they don't want to dominate each other, but to walk together during every single aspect in their life.
Why I speak like this? I don't really sure. This comes to me when I accepted the truth about myself and admit the wrongs I'd done in the past. And forgetting other's mistake, though it's really hard. But I manage it in my own pace. And reaching a peace in my heart with myself is a GREAT gift I've receive from me. Not with anyone else, but only from GOD that HE gave me the strengh. Because HE definitely knows my troubles and wrongs, and HE corrected me in HIS own way.
So for now, I'll just look at the world in it's own big picture and will be focusing on each and every detail later on.
And I question myself back now. Have I even been in REAL love? Or is the heartache I feel is just a figment of my imagination?
No! For so long I've denied the fact. That I'm just... I'm just fall in love with the idea of being in love with someone. And when I said it out loud last night, the feeling of being a broken hearted person for so long is GONE!!! It is just that simple! I'm breaking free from the pain, the heartache, the trouble, and all. And I really do hope it will be lasting.
For now, I'll just really laying back, looking around at the world that revolves underneath my feet and the people that touch my life and thinking: 'this is me now.. what about tomorrow? Will I have someone by my side to look at the life like now?' But I really don't have any worries about it. I don't really want to think about it.
Now all I want to do is to learn to feel. Feel as in feeling the air breeze upon my skin, the rain drop upon my skin, the heat from the sun (though I hate it so much if it's too hot), the smooth skin of baby holding on your hands with its own power (which I adore so much from them), the thumping on my heart each day that I can feel everytime I wake up in the morning or napping to know that I'm still alive.
And funnily, I feel it thumping even harder when I see him online, and my heart goes kaboom when there's a chat window says "hallo" to me every morning. And since I feel that way, I want to know him more... but keep a distance myself to let myself know whether this is real or just another imagination of mine.
A fatamorgana is even feel beautiful when you're totally expecting it. And I fell too deep before, that it really took me time to find myself a way out. So before I fell again to another dimension, I'd better stand back and see it clearly before stepping into it. And if I'm about to get lost, I'll get lost in the paradise and not another fatamorgana.
Reaching a peace on my own mind makes me realize another thing about being in love with another person. It doesn't require you to change nor change the person you love to be like what you wanted. Instead they will compromised each other and find their own pace in their lifetime. And perhaps each other will change for their own good. But in the whole picture, they don't want to dominate each other, but to walk together during every single aspect in their life.
Why I speak like this? I don't really sure. This comes to me when I accepted the truth about myself and admit the wrongs I'd done in the past. And forgetting other's mistake, though it's really hard. But I manage it in my own pace. And reaching a peace in my heart with myself is a GREAT gift I've receive from me. Not with anyone else, but only from GOD that HE gave me the strengh. Because HE definitely knows my troubles and wrongs, and HE corrected me in HIS own way.
So for now, I'll just look at the world in it's own big picture and will be focusing on each and every detail later on.
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